Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Allahumma solli 'ala saiyidina Muhammad
Assalamualaikum and hello everyone
Recently a video fyp on my tt. A video where a lady commenting or agreeing to a man unwilling to marry a woman with higher education level. For context, actually it was a stitch video (lady) to a street interview video (man). I couldn't remember the exact question in the interview but remember the guy in the video stating that he wouldn't marry a girl who has higher education level than him. Of course, a lot of women gave their opinions, in support and also in oppose to the thought. Well, never mind because to each their own, right? But, the lady (seemed like) concluded any man with that kind of thought actually possesses a set of leadership skill. Nahh, here is her notion to which I think is only surface. And I would like to give some input.
Unfortunately, in reality, better education does not always equate to better leadership. One can have a PhD yet struggle with personal relationship. It is not one or two cases couple have to separate because their male partner were not as expected in term of delivering effective leadership. Poor communication, lack of understanding, fail to prioritize and other lack of value required to be a good leader.
If by 'better education' he meant academic qualifications (like a dip, degree so on), then that view might be limiting. What if a man stops at a diploma and a woman can't proceed to a degree? 🤷♀️. Shouldn't a marriage or relationship grows you in mind, soul and..
body? If a man decided to end his education journey and automatically a woman have to follow suit, how and where the generations should take the inspiration? Of course there were thousands other outside, but it will be better if the family fly together. I think.
However, if by 'better education,' he meant wisdom, then I agree (though not the same - maybe he wants to rephrase that). I agree a man should be wiser, more rational, and able to make thoughtful decisions as a family leader. But here is the problem..even education alone doesn’t guarantee wisdom. Wisdom is gained through knowledge of various stages and experiences, good manners, and associating oneself with scholars to learn from them. Education level is a social formality (which is too surface to interpret one's wisdom) - a person can be formally educated but own only such level of thinking. A person may have multiple qualifications but unable to cerebrate and show quality leadership. And vice versa.
Both leadership and wisdom is part of character building. They are not self-activating with education no matter how high. To have the character, you need to socialize with right people, get experiences outside your comfort zone, read related books and be practical. Education is one thing. Leadership and wisdom are another things. Sounds similar but different.
In conclusion:
1. People should have a thirst for knowledge, and even if someone isn't a philomath, they should support others who want to progress.
2. Leadership isn’t determined solely by academic qualifications, though education can contribute to it.
3. Wisdom is a lifelong pursuit; it doesn't start with SPM and doesn’t end with a PhD.
Another conclusion:
You can marry a girl with lower academic qualification/education than you, but she is far better in conveying her thought process and reason her action.
Anyway, again, to each their own.
P/s Happy Chinese New Year. (Am I late?)
Till next post!
