Is Hijrah Getting Easier?

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim..
Allahumma solli 'ala saiyidina Muhammad
Assalamualaikum and hello everyone.

Reminder: A bit melancholy

If life were just about me, I would choose to stay where I am. To be who I am. Just this. But...

As we enter another Muharram, another new Hijrah year, today—more than any other day—reminds me of the many paths I’ve taken, whether willingly or under pressure. How many steps I’ve taken either eagerly or with heaviness in my heart.

I started living away from my parents at the age of 13. (I know many millennial kids had to leave their sweet homes even earlier than that.) From then on, house, even if  still home, has became a place I visited every once in a while—until now. I don’t remember clearly whether I had a tough time or an easy one, or if making decisions ever felt simple. But I do remember being very homesick, especially when I was thousands of miles away across many countries. Still, there were good memories with friends too.

Maybe it’s because “this is what I have to do” was so deeply planted in my mind that living life as it came was never a big issue.

Perhaps it’s not too much to say that the most painful moment was leaving you behind.
Wait—no—it was me who was left behind.
I had no idea what would happen or how I was going to move forward after losing the person I cherished so much. Still, with heart deep in dejection (at that time), I made the decision to leave the place where you stays, though I have to bear carried the feelings I had for you for many years. I had that courage, I overcame my sadness because “this is what I have to do.” Was it a big hijrah? I am not sure myself.

Now, it’s a whole different story.
When I no longer have to move, what once was motivation has become a big question..

“Is this what I have to do?”

And then the bigger one..

“Is this what I really want to do?”

It feels as if the call for hijrah is returning—after a few years of plateau.
As much as I want to move far forward, I also want to embrace all that is here.
And as much as I want to progress in many angles of my life—career, relationship, business, spirituality—I also want to enjoy my time for myself. Just like this. Just like now.

But without hijrah, there is no way forward.

I wish hijrah were as easy as before. When I was young and inspired.

But if it were easy, we wouldn’t call it hijrah. And it is only meant to be meaningful when it is hard.

Begitulah..

'Go forth, whether light or heavy, and strive with your wealth and your lives in the cause of Allah . That is better for you, if you only knew'
(9:41)

P/s: Salam ma'al hijrah, salam Jumu'ah mubarakah.
P/ss: Trivia - 1 Muharram is not actually the date of first hijrah Rasulullah.


Till next post!

The Educated, The Wise and The Leader

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

Allahumma solli 'ala saiyidina Muhammad

Assalamualaikum and hello everyone

Recently a video fyp on my tt. A video where a lady commenting or agreeing to a man unwilling to marry a woman with higher education level. For context, actually it was a stitch video (lady) to a street interview video (man). I couldn't remember the exact question in the interview but remember the guy in the video stating that he wouldn't marry a girl who has higher education level than him. Of course, a lot of women gave their opinions, in support and also in oppose to the thought. Well, never mind because to each their own, right? But, the lady (seemed like) concluded any man with that kind of thought actually possesses a set of leadership skill. Nahh, here is her notion to which I think is only surface. And I would like to give some input. 

Unfortunately, in reality, better education does not always equate to better leadership. One can have a PhD yet struggle with personal relationship. It is not one or two cases couple have to separate because their male partner were not as expected in term of delivering effective leadership. Poor communication, lack of understanding, fail to prioritize and other lack of value required to be a good leader. 

If by 'better education' he meant academic qualifications (like a dip, degree so on), then that view might be limiting. What if a man stops at a diploma and a woman can't proceed to a degree? 🤷‍♀️. Shouldn't a marriage or relationship grows you in mind, soul and..

physique? If a man decided to end his education journey and automatically a woman have to follow suit, how and where the generations should take the inspiration? Of course there were thousands other outside, but it will be better if the family fly together. I think.

However, if by 'better education,' he meant wisdom, then I agree (though not the same - maybe he wants to rephrase that). I agree a man should be wiser, more rational, and able to make thoughtful decisions as a family leader. But here is the problem..even education alone doesn’t guarantee wisdom. Wisdom is gained through knowledge of various stages and experiences, good manners, and associating oneself with scholars to learn from them. Education level is a social formality (which is too surface to interpret one's wisdom) - a person can be formally educated but own only such level of thinking. A person may have multiple qualifications but unable to cerebrate and show quality leadership. And vice versa.

Both leadership and wisdom is part of character building. They are not self-activating with education no matter how high. To have the character, you need to socialize with right people, get experiences outside your comfort zone, read related books and be practical. Education is one thing. Leadership and wisdom are another things. Sounds similar but different.

In conclusion:

1. People should have a thirst for knowledge, and even if someone isn't a philomath, they should support others who want to progress.

2. Leadership isn’t determined solely by academic qualifications, though education can contribute to it.

3. Wisdom is a lifelong pursuit; it doesn't start with SPM and doesn’t end with a PhD.

Another conclusion:

You can marry a girl with lower academic qualification/education than you, but she is far better in conveying her thought process and reason her action. 

Anyway, again, to each their own.

P/s Happy Chinese New Year. (Am I late?)

Till next post!

Letting Go and Letting God- Rosse's Version

Watched for the third time yesterday🫣 and still emotional. And as we get new perspective when we re-read any book, I got new light watching this for the third time. 

Remember how I dreamt to be in airforce. Liking Nuri shirt (it was Tabung Nuri by Bank Rakyat not sure now still exist or not) just because it reminds me of Nuri Airfighter Craft. Motif gila kan. Oh all the while heard multiple times about Nuri aircraft crushed, never single news shake me. Ended up being a medical student and announced to everyone during orientation day 'I dont want to be doctor, I want to be tentera udara'. Motif juga lagi macam 💩 bila ku ingat kahkah. Graduated medical school, thinking of joining military as a doctor. Met a military doctor in an event, inquired about it. 'Oh, started last year they do not open for grad outside UPNM anymore'. Wow, what a timing. Btw, I respect her (and others as her alike) that she didn't look down on me because of my height knowing that it would be so much at disadvantage. Not like somebody else. C you. 

Du'a=the light. 

Never once. Ever since I was child with that ambition, burning in my heart. Never once. Until I graduated. Never once. 

Never once I put that in my du'a. I can pray as it can make all things possible. Namun, tidak pernah terlintas di fikiran, tergerak di hati untuk berkata 'tuhan aku nak jadi tentera udara'. When I prayed to get excellent grades in every tests, never once He put the thought of asking that to Him. But the thing I always ask is to make me a good doctor, free my patients from my possible mistakes and not to harm them due to my shortness in knowledge. 

I wonder, why I never asked god that though I usually prayed for everything I desire. 

2:216

And everything falls perfectly to reason. To His knowing, the All-knowers, He plans everything and indeed it is the best plan. I again, put my trust and belief in You. 

Thank you, for showing it all at the end of 2022. Guide me to go through 2023. Ease my task, give me peace of heart. 

Allow me to be and do what You think is best for me and my akhirah🤍

Will I be praying for that now? 

No.

Sollu alan nabi